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Why Are You Single...Again?

Why Am I Single?
Asked & Answered
Is the question apparently on everyone's mind it seems...
I enter a store and they ask me, I go out on the scene and they ask me, I am at a party and they asked me, at the bank counter and the young dashing teller dares to ask me...

The things I am asked when people from my past meet me,
are questions that are most uncomfortable and I am reluctant to answer them on the point that they are quite deliberately nosey or maybe simply overly curious. Here, is the most famous quote of them all, "I thought you would have been married by now," and, I politely say, "it has to be the right kind of guy!" However, when I inquire of their life, they either divorced, recently divorced and or trying to pick me up in their most subtle way!

I am sure single women everywhere who have the breeding, the talent, the attractiveness, and all the components that make them more marketable get bombarded by...Why Are You Single?

So, let me tell you why?

I have been single for 8 months could have been longer because apparently I did not know when my relationship ended as my partner, he moved on and began a relationship with another woman, well many months before I moved on from that relationship. It was meant to be, for he would have been the death of me or eventually it would have been the death of him.

I am single because, while I am interested in meeting some real nice guy with the qualities and characteristics of eventually being a good mate, husband or father, many guys that I meet want a hook-up or a side chick.  Many more men are married and seek to make me their sweetheart.

I am single because I don't want to be the "other woman!"

I don't want to live in anyone's shadow and lose my integrity.  Although, it is quite tempting at times to give into the urges of having a man or any man at your side, I want more than just someone that I can call my man but that he is mine, exclusively mine rather than someone else's.

I am single because I deserve time to grieve, heal and deal with issues that I may not have never addressed in previous relationships. Taking the time to deal with "self" is important because you are spending quality time developing yourself for the right mate that would eventually come into your life.

I am single because I refuse to settle any longer for unsure when the world is big enough to explore possibilities of new and budding friendships and eventually find that man that is strong enough, secure enough,  and man enough for me.

I am single because truth is, I believe in fairy tales. Yes, the story of the Prince that would one day rescue me from the snares of a wicked cruel world...I have hope that he would find me and rescue me and we would ride off in the sunset and live happily ever after.

I am single because I believe God wants his ultimate best for me and while I am waiting and preparing, he is preparing that man, for the woman he has shaped into his own reflection...God's Woman!

There is someone for everyone and it only takes us to give ourselves the space and time to find the "One!"

So, there you have it folks, my reasons why I am still single...

Perhaps, I need to print out smaller cards and pass these out to all those people who find it shocking that someone like me has yet to be married.

Eventually, I know my Prince Charming is on his way... until that time, I'll wait until he comes and we find each other and live happily ever after!

THE END!

Unveiled to Be Transformed

-Keisha

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